Gaining

I just chatted with a woman who told me of her bad experiences with feeders. She's learned:

1. Don't bother with feeders who don't praise your body.

2. Don't bother with feeders who don't ever buy you food.

Can anyone add to this list? Or describe signs of a GOOD feeder?

Don’t be forceful when there is no consent from both partners.

Never overpush or continuously nag your feedee to gain past his/her established weight limit.

Never shame your feedee if he/she doesn’t consent to it, even if you think it’s playful.

Basically communicate with each other. A good feedee and feeder need to properly discuss and communicate what it is they want and the things they find enjoyable or are at least open to. Just going into this solely with your own ideas of what you like won’t work.

Expect a feeding relationship to be the same in these ways as a normal relationship. Respect, discussion, love, consent... act like a decent SO

A Feeder should always respect the needs of the Feedee. Naturely the Feeder should praise the effort
of the Feedee to gain. As the Feedee rewards the Feeder with the gain.